Easter is coming……

I received an email from YouVersion which is the app I use for the online Bible saying that they had several different devotional plans for the last week before Easter Sunday.  The story below is one I copied from that, written by John Piper:

A Vision for Holy Week

As I have tried to prepare my heart to meet Jesus in a special way on Palm Sunday and Maundy Thursday and Good Friday and Resurrection Day, a series of pictures has come back to my mind again and again. Let me try to describe the story for you.

A little lamb was born all wooly-white with skinny legs and a wet nose, pretty much like all the other little lambs. But as the lamb grew into a sheep, the other sheep began to notice a difference. This sheep had a strange lump on his forehead.

At first, they thought he’d been hit, but the lump never went down. Instead, a large pad of deep, white wool grew over the lump and made it very soft and firm. The lump might have stopped attracting attention except for the fact that this sheep began to use the lump on his head in very strange ways.

For one thing, the lump seemed to weigh down his head so that he always looked like he was bowing and showing reverence to some invisible king. Then he began to seek out other sheep that were sick or wounded. He would use the firm, soft lump on his forehead to help the weak onto their feet and to wipe away tears.

Whole flocks of sheep started to follow him around, but the goats laughed him to scorn. Sheep were disgusting enough, but a sheep with a queer lump on his forehead was more than they could take. They harassed him all the time and made up jokes and taunts: “How come you hang your wooly head? Your lump made out of woolen lead?” And it just infuriated them that he would walk away from them and keep on doing his quiet works of mercy.

So one day the goats surrounded him and rammed him with their horns until he died, and they left him alone in the field. But as he lay there, something very strange happened. He began to get bigger. The bloody wool fell away and revealed a sleek, white, horse-like hair. The soft pad of deep white wool dropped off his forehead and straight out of the merciful lump grew a mighty horn of crimson steel unlike any horn that has ever been or will be again.

And then, as if by command, the massive Unicorn leaped to his feet. His back stood eight feet above the ground. The muscles in his shoulders and neck were like marble. The tendons in his legs were like cables of iron. His head was no longer bowed, and when he looked to the right or to the left, the crimson horn slashed the air like a saber dipped in blood.

When the sheep saw him, they fell down and worshiped. He bowed and touched each one on the forehead with the tip of his horn, whispered something in their ear, and soared away into the sky. He hasn’t been seen since.

That’s the vision in my mind as I enter Holy Week. It’s a portrait of Jesus Christ painted by Isaiah under the inspiration of God and put on display by Matthew 12:18–21. Like every good work of art, this portrait has a purpose, and the purpose is to cause us to set our hope on Jesus Christ. And I am praying that this will happen in your life, because I know that everything else you set your hope on will let you down in the end. But if you hope in Jesus Christ, he will be honored in your life, and you will never regret it.

AMEN!

 

It’s a small, small world

In one of my very rare moments of actually doing online research trying to find some articles of interest to share at work, I ended up on the third page of Google after typing in “solution oriented” or something to that effect.  Imagine my surprise when after landing on the 3rd page down on Google and clicking through two more layers in an article, I arrived at Solution Focused Counseling featuring Stephanie Johnson out of Australia.  I found the information included on her website very intriguing and have included some of it below.  As I continued reading, I was almost in shock as I found, at the bottom of one of her pages, the information that she is a supporter of the A21 Campaign which was founded by one of my most favorite Christian “Satan-butt-kicking Chicks” (her words, not mine) Christine Caine.  Yep, couldn’t believe my eyes that one of her videos is actually included at the bottom of one of Stephanie’s pages.  What are the chances that someone like me who absolutely avoids doing any kind of online research would land on a website located 5-6 pages deep that included the very person who’s sex-trafficking campaign I have followed for the past 3-4 years???  All I know is that God can always manage to lead us to stuff even when we have no idea what is up.  I’m contemplating the idea of sending both Stephanie and Christine a note asking each of them if they know each other.  I would bet that they do and if not, I think it might be time they introduce themselves.

I hope you enjoy Stephanie’s Solution Focused Counseling as much as I have:

What is Solution Focused Counselling?

Solution focused counselling focuses on solutions rather than the problems themselves. As such it highlights people’s strengths and competences instead of their perceived deficits, weaknesses and limitations.

This shift in paradigm is dramatically different from previous counselling techniques that concentrated on identifying problems and trying to explain their origins. Steve de Shazer and Insoo Kim Berg were the founders of solution focused therapy in the 1980′s both were based in USA. Sadly both have pass away  recently.

There are several assumptions that provide the framework of solution focused counselling.

  • All people have strengths and inner resources to solve life’s challenges.
  • “Change is one of life’s constants”. Not only is change possible it is always happening.
  • The counsellor’s role in the therapy session is to help each client identify the change that is occurring and to help them increase that level of change.
  • We do not need to know what caused a problem to be able to solve it.
  • Change begins with small steps
  • The client is the expert in their life.
  • The person is not the problem, the problem is the problem
  • If its not working, do something different

What are the benefits and potential risks of Solution Focused Counselling? The primary benefit of solution focused counselling is that the client finds solutions to their problems. This can result in a reduction in the symptoms of stress, anxiety, and depression and interpersonal relationships may improve. Another benefit of solution focused counselling is that the client and counsellor identify clear goals at the start. As a result of this the client and counsellor will both know what success looks like and therefore can easily identify when counselling is no longer required.

This is the information on Stephanie’s site regarding A21:

Solutionfocusedcounselling.com supports The A21 Campaign, freeing women and children from  abuse and oppression. Can you join me?

“When confronted with the statistics, the issue of human trafficking can be overwhelming to say the least. It’s true… “someone SHOULD do something,” so we have decided to take responsibility and put our hand up… if for no other reason than just because we have a hand to raise and a heart that’s willing to make a difference. We have decided to become that “someone.” This is why we created The A21 Campaign. We can ALL play a part in fighting injustice… it is the only way we can win.

The A21 Campaign stands for abolishing injustice in the 21st century. Anyone can join – everyone can make a difference. To find out how you can join the fight for justice click on the video below or go to the website, www.thea21campaign.org

Click to play video

After I got over having goosebumps over this completely random find on my part, I took a minute to praise God for always knowing which direction to keep us pointed.  It really is a small world.

Communication on Communication

I found this article and thought it had some great tips….some can be used professionally AND personally.  Susan Young is managing editor of Ragan’s HR Communication, where this story first appeared.

Strong and effective communication skills are critical to your business success.  Here are 99 nuggets on business communication, networking, interviews, and social media that you can use to supercharge your department and career.

1. Believe body language. It doesn’t lie.

2. Remember that every statement or comment doesn’t require a response.

3. Choose your words carefully.

4. Speak and write with clarity.

5. Read whenever possible; it expands your vocabulary.

6. Be aware of your speech patterns and habits, including inflection, pacing, and tone of voice.

7. Avoid interrupting people. We’re adults. One voice at a time.

8. Keep slang at home.

9. Stay away from “empty” words such as “Frankly,” “Really,” and “Actually.”

10. Prepare an outline when speaking at meetings and presentations.

11. Focus conversations on other people, not yourself.

12. Weave names into conversations. Everyone’s favorite word is their own name.

13. Use dark backgrounds and light colored fonts for PowerPoint slides.

14. Insert silence and pauses into your speeches and conversations. They are more powerful than words.

15. Diffuse conflicts without technology. Plan a face-to-face meeting or a phone call to resolve issues amicably and quickly.

16. Develop the fine art of charisma. Don’t be a “crap magnet.”

17. Write to express, not to impress.

18. Engage your listener, reader, and audience with material that is clear, concise, and compelling.

19. Ask good questions and you’ll get good information.

20. Listen with your mouth closed.

21.  Use the “P-R-R” method when answering questions: Pause, Reflect, Respond.

22. Greet the janitor and the CEO of the company in the exact same way.

23. Smile and use eye contact. It’s the universal language.

24. Know when to speak up and know when to shut up.

25. Follow the 5 Ps: Proper Preparation Prevents Poor Performance (public speaking).

26. Respond to controversial or off-color comments with this phrase: “Isn’t that interesting?” Then smile. It’s a neutral statement and dead-ends virtually all conversations. In a pleasant way, of course.

27. Improve your communication skills by observing positive role models you admire and respect.

28. Show value when reciting your “elevator speech.” Focus on the results you get for others, not your job title.

29. Speak from the heart.

30. Follow a written agenda in meetings to save time and stay on task.

31. Make all important phone calls before noon.

32. Ask the question. Then be quiet.

33. Walk the walk and talk the talk. Be congruent.

34. Stay away from industry jargon and rhetoric that can confuse people.

35. Identify where your target audience hangs out and go there (this is true for bricks-and-mortar as well as social media)

36. Avoid writing emails and making phone calls when you’re angry or frustrated.

37. Write your blogs consistently so people can gain insight into your expertise, experiences, and personality.

38. Learn Emotional Intelligence (empathy, self-awareness, and teamwork) to improve your communication skills.

39. Understand the importance of self-promotion and personal branding.

40. Walk into a room tall, strong, and proud.

41. Look for similarities, not differences. This bridges communication gaps.

42. Listen to what is not being said.

43. Avoid criticizing, complaining, and judging.

44. Record yourself on audio or video to hear and see how you move and behave.

45. Answer the phone standing up and smiling.

46. Look in the mirror before you go into a meeting.

47. Give all of your attention to the person who is speaking. Avoid distractions and “darting eyes.”

48. Turn off your technology at professional business meetings and events.

49. Avoid excessive and distracting clothing patterns, jewelry, make-up, and accessories —especially when you are the speaker, TV guest, or recording a video for your intranet.

50. Be relevant and memorable.

51. Use gestures to empasize your spoken words.

52. Follow the leader. If he speaks fast, you speak fast. If he is slow, you should be slow.

53. Connect with people by being authentic and genuine.

54. Stay on message.

55. Dress like the person you aspire to be.

56. Build rapport with people.

57. Keep your jacket open. A closed jacket sends a nonverbal sign that you may be hiding something.

58. Have a good handshake. Practice with someone you trust and get their feedback.

59. Thank someone when they offer a compliment (don’t argue!)

60. Save political, religious, sex, and other controversial jokes or stories for outside of your professional circles.

61. Respect the personal space of others.

62. Avoid planning your answer in your head when someone is speaking. Pay close attention to what they are saying and then respond.

63. Write with bullet points and white space so your information is “reader-friendly.”

64. Have a powerful opening and closing in your presentations, speeches, articles, and blog posts.

65. Highlight benefits, not features, when building consensus for new projects and ideas.

66. Create punchy, engaging, and helpful videos that are 1-3 minutes in length.

67. Write tweets of less than 125 characters; leaving space for people to retweet and spread your message.

68. Connect with human emotions by using real-life examples and sharing stories.

69. Avoid keeping your reading glasses on and “looking down your nose” when speaking to others.

70. Emphasize important words or phrases by lowering or raising your voice, or slowing down.

71. Exude positive energy in both your written and spoken words.

72. Understand the importance of making small talk.

73. Avoid biting your lip and inside cheek when speaking to someone. These signal anxiety or nervousness.

74. Project your voice with authority.

75. Use smiles as positive reinforcements.

76. Express gratitude.

77. Re-read, and if necessary, rewrite everything before you send it, speak it, or share it.

78. Maintain eye contact, but not at a level that can make someone feel uncomfortable.

79. Keep your palms open when asking questions. This indicates you are open-minded and welcoming.

80. Recognize when it’s appropriate to use a “social hug” to greet someone.

81. Avoid the word “stuff.” It’s vague and unprofessional. Be specific.

82. Write an article for your ezine or newsletter that includes interesting quotes and statistics.

83. Drink alcohol on your personal time.

84. Steer conversations to positive topics.

85. Dress appropriately for videos and TV interviews by asking about background colors, lighting, and set design.

86. Have a mission or value statement that has repeatability so others can communicate it for you.

87. Use your body language to your advantage when delivering a speech. Don’t hide behind the podium.

88. Watch for cultural differences in communication styles.

89. Remember that enthusiasm is contagious.

90. Point your feet away from someone if you want to leave the conversation.

91. Respond to comments on your blog or website so it’s interactive and engaging.

92. Leave your personal life outside of business conversations.

93. Show respect and spare people’s feelings. Don’t blame or insult anyone.

94. Delete the word “just” from your vocabulary. It’s belittling. You’re not “just an accountant” or “just a recruiter.” You are an accountant. You are a recruiter. Be proud.

95. Stop over-apologizing. You’re not responsible for the poor service, rain, or world peace.

96. Resist the temptation to finish other people’s sentences.

97. Open your eyes, ears, and heart to new messages and people.

98. Be the fountain, not the drain.

99. Stand up if everyone around is standing and sit down if everyone is seated. Be on a level playing field.

Erma’s wisdom

If I Had My Life to Live Over – by Erma Bombeck

(written after she found out she was dying from cancer)

“I would have gone to bed when I was sick instead of pretending the earth would go into a holding pattern if I weren’t there for a day. I would have burned the pink candle sculpted like a rose before it melted in storage. I would have talked less and listened more. I would have invited friends over to dinner even if the carpet was stained or the sofa faded. I would have eaten the popcorn in the ‘good’ living room and worried much less about the dirt when someone wanted to light a fire in the fireplace. I would have taken the time to listen to my grandfather ramble about his youth. I would have shared more of the responsibility carried by my husband. I would never have insisted the car windows be rolled up on a summer day because my hair had just been teased and sprayed. I would have sat on the lawn with my grass stains. I would have cried and laughed less while watching television and more while watching life. I would never have bought anything just because it was practical, wouldn’t show soil or was guaranteed to last a lifetime. Instead of wishing away nine months of pregnancy, I’d have cherished every moment and realized that the wonderment growing inside me was the only chance in life to assist God in a miracle. When my kids kissed me impetuously, I would never have said, “Later. Now go get washed for dinner.” There would have been more “I love you’s.” More “I’m sorry’s.” But mostly, given another shot at life, I would seize every minute, look at it and really see it….live it….and never give it back. Stop sweating the small stuff. Don’t worry about who doesn’t like you, who has more, or who’s doing what. Instead, let’s cherish the relationships we have with those who do love us. Let’s think about what we have been blessed with. And what we are doing each day to promote ourselves mentally, physically, and emotionally, as we only have one shot at this and then it’s gone. I hope you all have a blessed day.”

Erma was one SMART woman. Just sayin’……..